My Advise for a Long and Lasting Relationship

1.  No matter your common ground NOT to get married---ASK HER ANYWAY.

2.  Continue to court and flirt with her even after you're married.

3.  Know her bad side and stay clear of it like a plague!

4.  Contradict her only if you have an iron clad defense for your position; otherwise, SHUT UP.

5.  Be sensitive to the needs of your partner---PROVIDE for her unspoken needs.

6.  Correlative to #1 and #5:  MAYBE, IKAW NA ANG BAHALA, and EWAN KO, may actually mean YES---make an effort to know the difference (facial expression, verbal intonation, and body language is key).

7.  When she says NO---take it at face value (especially if you're asking permission to go out with the guys).

8.  Correlative to #7:  If you decide to go against her NO, make sure you bring her a present that would melt her heart into forgiving you.  

     Note:  This may only be applicable to the RICH types; otherwise, NEVER attempt to do this.

9.  Make an effort to make her laugh.

10.  Always tell her how beautiful she is.  

11.  If you can't do any the above mentioned advise or if you see that your better half does not appreciate this effort---I suggest you get yourself a new partner.

Keeping Your Man on a Leash

I believe this is true---especially for married couples.  It does not mean that when you get hitched, a woman can stop being sexy and start wearing granny panties.  Much that women want to romanticize marriage, men are always a slave to their inner animal.  

Lingerie does not discriminate in terms of size.  You may be a PLUS size gal but believe me when I tell you, when you're in that black lace teddy or that leather corset, your man sees a voluptuous woman!  Just notice how his eyes glace up and dilate as soon as the light hits you---for him, you are the most beautiful and sexy woman in the world---KEEP IT THAT WAY!

Pictures courtesy of Boudoir Dolls.

Eventually, this physical fixation will come to an end as love transcends to the next level.  Let me just give you a real quick Levels of Love review.  The first being Philial or the love we have for friends; Eros is the love we have for your spouse; and Agape is the ultimate love or Divine Love.  The ultimate love connection is to achieve Agape where the relationship is already on the emotional and spiritual level and where the physical is no longer as important.  So until such time that we are in the plane of Agape, it is important to have your guy lassoed to your sexy charm!

Is It Hot in Here or Is It Me? by RJ Ledesma

I'm a fan of RJ Ledesma's writing.  I have been following his Wednesday column Pogi from a Parallel Universe for the Philippine Star as a stress reliever.  I find his topics aligned with my interests (men and their funny hedonistic adventures) but other than that---I think I have come to develop a growing infatuation with his YAYA!  

I have attempted time and again to buy one of his books.  Unfortunately, it's almost always not available.  Ok, ok...it's not availability that's an issue---it's budget!  Money has been tight recently and shelling out Php 220 for the book seemed excessive.  Fortunately, Christmas gave me the reason to splurge under the premise of buying myself a Christmas gift.  So here it is, my first RJ Ledesma book Is It Hot In Here or Is It Me?

I'm now setting aside (if you can actually do that to an ebook) George R.R. Martin's A Dance with Dragons and devote my reading time to finish this book